Benefits of Journaling

So here we are, in the new year, which is always a great time of year to develop good, new habits or to deepen old ones.

Today’s blog post is about the benefits of regular journaling.

Who among us used to keep a diary when we were younger?

I know I’ve been a lifelong journaler; I started the habit pretty much as soon as I learned to write full sentences! I must have filled up dozens and dozens of old diaries over the years because I intuitively understood journals as the powerful tools they are to help me understand my struggles and fears without judgment or punishment. I remember how good it felt to release all of those thoughts and feelings, and to write out my deepest, most personal hopes and dreams, getting them out of my head and down onto paper. My world somehow seemed clearer after journaling.

But then adulthood rolled around… and my journaling stopped being as prolific as it used to be. Like so many adults, I too can get caught up in the busyness of day-to-day life. Adulting is hard, y’all! I know I’m not alone on this because I hear it often from my clients too.

But… it’s such a shame that so many of us have stopped keeping regular journals!

One of the very first things I do with all my clients as soon as I start working with them is to encourage them to get back to a regular journaling practice as a supplemental support to our work together. Keeping a regular diary is a great way to develop self-reflection and self- compassion. It helps us to understand our shadow selves, our triggers, our deepest dreams… In my years of working one-on-one with clients in private practice, I’ve noticed that those who regularly write in their journals are the ones who more often than not get the clarity they’re seeking much sooner. And as a result, they are usually the ones who “graduate” from therapy a LOT sooner. Positive outcomes are more easily attained, and at a much more rapid pace. WHY? It’s simple. Writing down our thoughts and feelings helps us understand them more clearly. It helps us notice our limiting beliefs and our dysfunctional coping mechanisms. It helps us get in touch with our core values – what really matters to us, what we want more of. It propels us forward.

So… if you struggle with stress, depression, or anxiety, or even if you’re just feeling STUCK (don’t we all at times?!), keeping a journal is a great idea. It can help you gain control of your emotions, improve your mental health, and gain CLARITY on your life. Journalling can help you prioritize any problems, fear and concerns. It can help you track your day to day thoughts and feelings, and can also provide you with a great opportunity to practice positive self-talk and affirmations.

So… journaling is a pretty simple but powerful tool to help develop a healthy lifestyle for better managing stress, anxiety, and mental health & wellness. It’s an incredible tool to help you cultivate a more MINDFUL life. And when I talk of an overall healthy lifestyle that includes journaling, I’m also talking about things like

  • Lowering your stress levels
  • Eating a healthy, balanced, nutrient-rich diet
  • Exercising regularly, preferably outside, in nature while absorbing the sun’s healing Vitamin D
  • Meditating each day
  • Getting plenty of sleep each night
  • Reducing (or ideally abstaining) from alcohol and drugs

Whenever I’ve recommended journaling to my clients, I’ve sometimes been met with resistance from them.

“But it’s so time-consuming, Sandy”…. “I have no time.”… “I’m MUCH too busy for that.”

“I would have no idea what to even write in my journal.”

“The blank pages overwhelm me.”

“I have too many thoughts in my head, and I can’t possibly discern which ones are important enough to capture and which ones are just… noise in my head.”

Clearly, we seem to have collectively embraced the “I’m much too busy” lament. Sure, life is busy with work/school, childcare, eldercare, paying the bills, cleaning the house, doing laundry, cooking, etc. But journaling doesn’t have to be a long, time-consuming process. Some days, I will jot down some stream of consciousness notes as they pop into my head in under 5 minutes, in point form, on the Notes app in my phone. Other days, as time allows, the entries will be deeper and more fleshed out, and handwritten in a journal. I’ve also noticed the best time for me to journal is first thing in the morning, immediately after having meditated. I got into this habit years ago, after having read Julia Cameron’s wonderous The Artist’s Way, in which she describes the importance of what she calls Morning Pages.

My point is, journaling doesn’t have to take hours and hours to be effective. We can help ourselves by trading out some of our mind-numbing Netflix time with some important self-care time that actually helps us connect more deeply with ourselves and our values.

As for the excuse of “I don’t know what to write about”… That’s a pretty valid concern too, especially if you’re a journaling newbie or somebody who hasn’t engaged in this practice in a long time… which is why I’ve recently published a colourful journal with over 80 powerful coaching prompts to help you get in touch with yourself and live a more mindful life. And I’ve since I’ve always understood the deep connection between creative expression and self-reflection, I’ve included a sampling of some mandalas that I’ve drawn over the year, which you can colour in, if you like. There are also plenty of blank pages on which you can create your own artwork to help get your creativity and self-reflection juices flowing.

The book is available for purchase at most major online retailers like Amazon, etc. But I’ll let you in on a little secret… It’s also available to preview and buy at a lower price, direct from the publisher, below. I would love for you to have a look, buy it, and to share it with your circles to help me spread the word. And please tell me how you like using it, if you do decide to purchase it!

My Mindful Life Journal

My Mindful Life Journal by Sandy Kiaizadeh. Click on this photo to preview and purchase this book direct from the publisher.

You know, keeping a journal can help you create order when your world feels like it’s in chaos. Using a journal like this one will help you get to know yourself by revealing your most private fears, dreams, thoughts, and feelings. I encourage you to look at your writing time as personal relaxation time. Remember that it’s a meditative process that can help you de-stress and wind down.

I invite you to get into the habit of journaling again. Make self-care an important part of your 2020. Make the practice of journaling a special time to reconnect with yourself, by creating a ritual around it… maybe writing in a place that’s relaxing and soothing, or maybe combining it with another mindful ritual, like tea time. Ultimately though, look forward to your journaling time, and know that you’re doing something good for your mind, body and spirit.

Affirmation: I Welcome The New Year With Joy

For many, the promise of the new year is a time for reflection and rebirth. It’s a reset. A fresh start. An opportunity for reinvention and creating abundance.

I probably go against conventional wisdom when it comes to setting New Year’s Resolutions. Simply put, I don’t like ’em. Why? Because it’s not uncommon for most well-intentioned resolutions to be discarded by January 17, which, incidentally enough, is known as Ditch New Year’s Resolution Day. How many of us have signed up for gym memberships soon after New Year’s only to never go, despite our credit cards still being charged? Gyms worldwide know this about us! Not to mention how ditched resolutions only make us feel terrible about ourselves!

So. Resolutions, bad. In my books, they’re the antithesis of self-compassion, and anyone who’s spent any quality time with me knows that I’m all about compassion-based living.

BUT.

I still believe in living life mindfully.

With full intentions and awareness.

What I’ve been practising annually to keep myself on track and accountable is to live by themes. For instance, for me, 2017 was all about embracing joy, while 2018 was my year of healing. 2019 was all about inviting more love, while 2020 will be all about courage. This means that, before every action I take or every choice I make over the next 12 months, I will ask myself first whether I’m putting myself out there authentically in order to stretch myself, even if it may make me slightly uncomfortable. It takes courage to do that!IMG_4593

So I invite you to think about what theme you’d like to live by in 2020.

To keep on track with your chosen theme, affirmations can be powerful tools to help shift your mindset. So why not use an affirmation or two to help you start the year off on the right foot?

So for instance, if you’re looking to invite more joy (theme) into your life, you could try these affirmations, if they resonate for you:

To have great joy, I open my mind and my heart to what the New Year will bring. I avoid fearing the change that the ending of one year offers. I welcome change because it allows for growth. Change keeps things interesting and eventful. I find excitement and joy in every new experience.

Or more simply:

Today, I embrace and welcome the joy the New Year will surely bring to me.

Of course, these are only suggestions. Come up with your own affirmations by spending a few moments with the following self-reflection questions:

  • What theme do I choose to embrace in 2020?
  • How can I make 2020 more joyous than the last one (if joy is your theme)?
  • What can I do to bring more joy (if that’s your theme) to others in the coming year?
  • How can I embrace the changes and challenges of the New Year while living in alignment with my chosen theme?

So… what theme and affirmation will you live by in 2020?

Hypnosis for Deep Sleep

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Here’s another guided audio recording, which is good to use if you’re having trouble falling (or staying!) asleep.

Hypnosis and meditation are both wonderful tools to help us access a slower brain frequency state. Are you ready to go into a very relaxing state to allow yourself the deep sleep that you deserve? If so, this guided audio is for you. Sweet dreams!

Breathing Anchor Meditation

A7F97FE5-58F4-4350-9045-20E8813BC491Here’s another guided meditation for you!

This meditation is a “breathing anchor” mindfulness practice to help root your awareness into the present moment, dissolve anxiety, decrease stress, and allow the body to heal in a relaxed, peaceful state.

Let me know what you think!

 

Safe Place Meditation (For Pain)

BEA573FD-4A8B-4645-8F52-E0351582BB23Here is a brand new guided audio meditation that can help those of you who are dealing with physical or emotional pain. Hope you enjoy it!

Self-Compassion Guided Meditation

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Self Compassion Meditation

 

 

Here’s one of my favourite meditations to practice, to cultivate self-compassion. Click on the play button and join me!

I hope you enjoy it!

5-Minute Simple Breathing Space Meditation

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Breathing Space Meditation by Sandy Kiaizadeh

 

Come join me for a quick, simple and super relaxing meditation! Hit play on the video below.

What Is Self-Care? Here Are Some Tips!

What is self-careI often get asked by clients what this idea of “self-care” really looks like, practically speaking. It seems like we’re bombarded with this expression everywhere we look, especially on our social media feeds. Here are my thoughts on self-care, as well as some quick tips you can use today to begin practising good self-care.

FYI – This video was recorded last summer, but it somehow got lost in my iCloud and I forgot to upload it as a result… I only found it today as I was trying to clean out my hard drive as part of my laptop’s regular maintenance. Guess all my self-caring over the past 7 months made me forget to share this with you all! 😁

Hope you enjoy it! Feel free to share your comments with me below.

Mandala Drawing As A Meditative Practice?

IMG_0224 I often teach my clients about the concept of the Monkey Mind – the inner narrative that we ALL have inside that is often critical and hopelessly jumps from one thought to another, just as a monkey tirelessly swings from branch to branch in the jungle.

Today, my Monkey Mind is especially loud. Yup, even though I teach this stuff for a living, I still have a Monkey Mind. Some days, she’s well behaved, on the quiet side and unassuming. I so appreciate those days when we seem to get along! On other days, however, she leaves my head spinning from exhaustion, as she flits about from one thought to the next, at a rapid-fire pace.

Today, she is LOUD.

That’s where my daily mindfulness practice comes in. Mindfulness is about giving yourself the purposeful gift of present moment awareness without judgment.

Mindfulness is about setting your focused INtention to pay ATtention to what you choose to focus on.

It’s about training your Monkey Mind, by teaching her that you are not her. And that she isn’t the boss of you. Mindfulness is about learning to be the one observing Monkey Mind. Mindfulness meditation is a great tool to practice this important concept of the Observer Self.

Thankfully, we ‘ve come a long way in our Western society in accepting that a mindfulness practice doesn’t mean that you are required to sit cross-legged on the floor, dressed in saffron robes, burning incense and candles, and chanting Sanskrit mantras. Sure, meditating on the cognitive (mind), body, psychological and spiritual connection can be accomplished by quietly sitting with your eyes closed and directing one’s focused attention on an anchor of some sort (e.g. your breathing). And that’s certainly my practice of choice on most days.

However, today, I recognized that my mind was simply too scattered and unfocused to be able to sit quietly with my eyes closed for an extended period of time. On stressful days like today, I make it a point to practice a more active form of meditation to help ground myself to the present moment and quiet the Inner Monkey – by either walking, dancing, singing, painting, or drawing.

So I spent about 30 minutes at lunchtime today drawing this mandala on my iPad. This wasn’t about creating art for art’s sake. This was about directing my attention to an activity with full moment-by-moment awareness. It was about making mindful brush strokes and coordinating my breathing with each line drawn. It was about choosing to focus on what *I* wanted to focus on, no matter how many times my Monkey Mind pipped up with one of her patented random thoughts that don’t always make sense.

The result? My Monkey Mind quieted down about 5 minutes into the activity. And now, even hours later, it’s as though she’s still napping somewhere in the jungle inside my head. And I used the reprieve she’s given me to get some much-needed work done… including writing this blog post which had seemed like an insurmountable task earlier today.

How about THAT for a mindful solution to an everyday problem?

What Is Intuitive Eating?

IMG_4951Have you heard of the term “intuitive eating” or “eating mindfully”, and wondered what it really means? It’s a non-dieting eating approach to living healthfully, which promotes:

• listening to your body
• eating when you’re hungry and stopping when you’re full
• eating mindfully without distractions such as television and smartphones
• moving daily for enjoyment rather than punishment
• accepting the body’s natural size and shape
• removing food guilt
• ending food preoccupation by removing any form of food restriction.

Abundant research now shows that dieting doesn’t work in the long run, and can, in fact, lead to disordered eating behaviours. So get off the hurtful “no fat,” “low cal,” “no sugar,” and “clean eating” yo-yo cycle of self-abuse and go back to basics instead – which is to simply listen to your body’s natural cues, eat mindfully, and find an exercise activity that you actually enjoy!